Self-Care Vs. Self Doubt – Use That Self-Doubt To Empower Yourself
Have you ever felt less-than? Like you’re not enough? Like you’re trying, but just can’t do enough? It’s almost if you are present in your life, but just can’t seem to measure up. To your expectations. To society’s expectations.
It’s like you show up. But not allll of you. You’re there. You do what you’re supposed to – but it’s just never enough. And sometimes it”s not just all about expectations. Sometimes you do what you’re supposed to – but it’s like you’re not all there. You’re doing. You’re parenting. You’re working. You’re participating.
BUT NOT ALL OF YOU. I mean, you’re there, you show up, you’re living – but are you thriving?
Like it’s not all you can be – or all you can do.
It’s like, let’s say, what, 75, maybe 80%?
Where’s that other 20%?
Did I forget her in the car? Back in a bar? Snuggled and hiding under the covers in safety and security? Or remaining deeeep in the grey matter of your self-criticism and self-doubt blocking it?
Where’s your best self? Why can’t you show up FULLY.
And then why does self-doubt start overtaking that 20%?
Only if you LET it. For you really do have the power.
YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Even in times of doubt. Even when you’re not enough. For yourself. Or for others.
Oh! And that elusive 20%?
That’s where you empower yourself.
For that’s where the gifts are. That’s where the growth is. That’s where a new and better and stronger and more empowered YOU are.
I know, it sounds nonsensical. Yet it truly makes all of the sense.
Why? Because that’s where the opportunity is. That’s where your growth is. That’s where you empower yourself.
That’s where you figure out the really hard stuff. What you’re made of. Your grit. Your gut. Your gusto. Your glory.
YES! Where you doubt yourself is where the power lies -and where and how you empower yourself.
Is it easy? Uh, no. Otherwise we would never doubt ourselves.
But those areas of fear, doubt, growth, of less-thans and feelings of failure, oh my sweet girl, that is the magic spot.
This is where you empower yourself the most.
That’s called a learning curve!
Learn to ride that like a rollercoaster at an amusement park. Thrilling, scary, exciting and adrenaline-pumping excitement.
For there is the growth.
When you face that fear, when you feel you’re not enough, or will I measure up, or will I fail, or what if I can’t really do it? THAT IS THE MAGIC.
The magic isn’t in the successes, the magic is in the growth, in the overcoming self-doubt and fear of failure or fear you can’t measure up.
Turn that fear into fuel to empower yourself.
You’re not less-than – you’re growing and getting stronger. You think you’re drowning in fear or failure?
Oh babe, this is the good stuff – this is swimming in the magic of empowerment.
Embrace it! Face it! That’s where your growth is! Is it scary? Damn right it is! Step into that fear – face your fear and do it anyway!
Empower Yourself Today, Babe!
I feel that doubt and I face that fear right along with you.
That is why I am always trying to empower myself!
Let me know what works for YOU!
I would love to hear from you!
xoxo,
-M