9 Ways To Talk To Your Kids About The Death of Osama Bin Laden

Empowering Ways To Talk To Your Kids About The Death Of Osama Bin Laden

Are your kids asking you questions you can’t answer?  Not sure how to handle this with your children?

Here’s some tips on Talking about the death of Osama Bin Laden and other news with your children.

The dawn of this century was ushered in by the violence and the attack on the United States during on 9/11.  In the wake of news of the attack and death of Osama Bin Laden: This is about rising up not in hate but in optimism. This is about what it is to be an American. This violence led by Bin Laden will forever shape the lives of your children!  Addressing this major event with your children is crucial.

Do you ever find yourself without answers to your kids’ questions? As parents, sometimes WE struggle for what to say to our sweet kids.  And while you may not know how to answer and what to say – NOT answering their questions is worse.  It doesn’t address their feelings and concerns. And this event of the death of Osama Bin Laden may very well be one of the most significant events to happen in American history -this is a perfect opportunity to open up discussions on a variety of topics.

The Empowered Mom℠ arms herself with tools when tackling the tough stuff.  Not sure how to talk about major news stories with your kids?  Here’s some tips you can use when talking to your kids about what’s happening in the world or in the news.

Empowered Idea: Stay at Home Mom Manifesto: Do It For Yourself

I was on the phone yesterday doing an interview for a story when I mentioned that I’m going to be a stay at home mom with Harper, rather than finding another job. The

woman I was speaking with was a well accomplished Manhattan attorney — and mom. “Well, don’t stay home for your kids,” she told me. “They won’t remember. Make sure you do it for yourself.”

She said that when she told her 23-year-old daughter that she’d stayed home with her Saturday nights because she couldn’t bear to leave her, the daughter deadpanned: “That was stupid.”

A reader on MommyMoi recently left me a similar comment: “All I know is that FOR ME, the nine years I stayed home with my children (mainly because of unemployment) were not good. I love being at work, and my children (now 13, 15 and 17) don’t even remember that I was ever home. They understand that I love my job just about as much as I love them. Of course, I was able to arrange my hours so I could be home in the evenings. Most studies I have seen indicate that children benefit most from parents who are happy, so you have to decide what will make you happiest. For me, it was definitely work outside the home!”

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Is your mom the best mother ever? Of course she is — so tell us why.

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We all believe – there isn’t a day of the year that mom won’t be special to us! For mom is the one who helps us to overcome all the hiccups, is the one who stood like a rock in our lean and she is the one really means the world to us.

Would You (of Do You) Read This Blog If You Did Not Have Kids?

Good Read from Mom-101

This week, I was minding my own business on the commute to work, picking my nose, reading about the Beastie Boys, daydreaming about cheese, adjusting a wedgie–whatever things you do in the privacy of a packed A-train car filled with anonymous commuters.

As the train pulled up to the West 4th Street station, I felt a hand on my shoulder. I turned to face this young woman with the sweetest smile and a fedora, who I expected to be giving directions to, or thanking her for pointing out that I had dropped my MetroCard. Instead, she blurted out in the brief second before the doors closed, that while she has no kids, she reads my blog.

It kind of made my day.

At least after I nervously replayed my train ride, hoping that she didn’t see me doing something totally embarrassing like knocking over an old lady to grab the last seat.

(But I didn’t. I only do that on the commute home when my feet really hurt.)

What stayed with me all week, though, was the email Kelly sent me later that morning. As I told her, I  think it’s too good not to share it.

Of Things Related to The Royal Wedding and Things Up Your Nose

I love reading other mom blogs in a seemingly never ending pursuit to find inspiration amongst some of the great writers out there.  So, here is what I am wondering?  As I’m combing through all these posts, why not share some of the really good ones with you?  Yeah, I know – why didn’t I think of that.

So here are some from today:

I don’t care who designed Kate’s dress.

Harper will be six tomorrow, and I have a field trip with Meredith’s class (Chinese Buffet!). Meredith will be eight on Friday, and I have a field trip with Harper’s class (Zoo!). We have two birthday parties scheduled for Saturday and one for Sunday. Things are hectic, but it’s a Happy Hectic.

“Oh! Wait a second,” you may say, “I have noticed a glaring omission in your List o’ Hectic! Prince William! Kate Middleton! Have you no desire to put on a hat and participate in the jollification? EVEN ANDERSON COOPER WILL BE THERE!”

Empowered Information: Why Marriages Take a Nose Dive After the First Child is Born

Along with shopping for sippy cups and strollers, expectant parents may want to consider another task for their to-do list: honing their marriage skills.

Numerous studies have shown that a couples’ satisfaction with their marriage takes a nose dive after the first child is born. Sleepless nights and fights over whose turn it is to change diapers can leach the fun out of a relationship.

Dominick Reuter for the Wall Street Journal

Now, a growing number of mental-health professionals are advising couples to undergo pre-baby counseling to hash out marital minefields such as divvying up baby-related responsibilities, money issues and expectations for sex and social lives. A growing number of hospitals, midwives and doulas (birth coaches who provide physical and emotional support) are teaching relationship skills alongside childbirth education classes.

About two-thirds of couples see the quality of their relationship drop within three years of the birth of a child, according to data from the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, a nonprofit organization focused on strengthening families. Conflict increases and, with little time for adult conversation and sex, emotional distance can develop.

The Empowered Mom says: What a buzz kill, isn’t it.  Seriously, if that’s not some of the best birth control, then I don’t know what is!  And, by the way — If you have kids, then you already know the information presented in this Wall Street Journal article is NO JOKE.  That’s what’s so frightening.  It’s kinda like we wait and wish and hope and pray for the marriage, family, kids, dog, house…. and then BAM! The reality sometimes, well, sucks. Or rather, its repercussions on some components of our lives flat-out – well…falls flat.

There’s more to come – keep reading.

Here’s An Empowered Thought: Everything I needed to know about life, I learned from 8 years of blogging.

There is a great new post over at Mommy Needs Coffee.  This is one of my favorite blogs to read each day. Jennifer’s writing is always edgy, sometimes saucy – and frequently a guilty pleasure for me.

She has a fun post entitled,Everything I needed to know about life, I learned from 8 years of blogging. (No, not really but kind of a catchy title, no?)

I like almost all of the reasons.  Some are better than others.

Take for example Reason # 6 – I couldn’t agree more.

Why I Love (I Mean Hate) Working From Home – An Empowered Story

After my son, Andrew, was born, I faced a question as fraught as formula versus breast milk. Could I climb the career ladder in sweatpants?

It started when an acquaintance questioned why I was sending Andrew to day care. “But you’re a writer. You can work from home,’’ she said. “You

wouldn’t need child care!’’ For a nanosecond, my heart fluttered. I could be a stay-at-home-working mom! I’d stroll with other moms, then toil while he napped. We’d play until dinner, and then I’d work all night —leaving just enough time to take a quick shower and go insane.

Moved by devotion to parenthood and career, I seduced myself into thinking I could be mom and employee at the same time. Working from home seemed like just the answer. And it was the answer, thanks to increased flexibility and no commuting time. But I didn’t give up my day-care slot. I couldn’t nurture a career and a baby, so I cobbled together an arrangement that (usually) suits me: I’m a work-at-home mom. Andrew attends care part-time, and my mom helps part-time. My office wardrobe is culled from the Kurt Cobain collection and I go hours without speaking to humans. Most days, I’m happy.

“Good Enough” is the New Perfect for Empowered Moms

Today’s Empowered Moms are constantly re-evaluating what it means to “have it all” and creating new ways to balance family and work.

“The Mommy Wars” of the past decades, which pitted stay-at-home mothers against those in the workforce, have changed. There’s less camaraderie now between women in both camps and more isolation as mothers have such varied lives, both at work and at home.