Why I Love (I Mean Hate) Working From Home – An Empowered Story

After my son, Andrew, was born, I faced a question as fraught as formula versus breast milk. Could I climb the career ladder in sweatpants?

It started when an acquaintance questioned why I was sending Andrew to day care. “But you’re a writer. You can work from home,’’ she said. “You

wouldn’t need child care!’’ For a nanosecond, my heart fluttered. I could be a stay-at-home-working mom! I’d stroll with other moms, then toil while he napped. We’d play until dinner, and then I’d work all night —leaving just enough time to take a quick shower and go insane.

Moved by devotion to parenthood and career, I seduced myself into thinking I could be mom and employee at the same time. Working from home seemed like just the answer. And it was the answer, thanks to increased flexibility and no commuting time. But I didn’t give up my day-care slot. I couldn’t nurture a career and a baby, so I cobbled together an arrangement that (usually) suits me: I’m a work-at-home mom. Andrew attends care part-time, and my mom helps part-time. My office wardrobe is culled from the Kurt Cobain collection and I go hours without speaking to humans. Most days, I’m happy.

“Good Enough” is the New Perfect for Empowered Moms

Today’s Empowered Moms are constantly re-evaluating what it means to “have it all” and creating new ways to balance family and work.

“The Mommy Wars” of the past decades, which pitted stay-at-home mothers against those in the workforce, have changed. There’s less camaraderie now between women in both camps and more isolation as mothers have such varied lives, both at work and at home.

The Myth of Doing It All

I’ve been doing lots of reading lately.  I’m studying what makes some of these mom blogs so successful.  And along the way I am finding some that I really like.  It’s interesting that I’m drawn to original, well written content.  Some of it so good, I want to share them with you.

Let’s start with Mom-101.  This is a great site that many of you may already read. Liz is a great writer who I have enjoyed reading for some time.  And she has a great new post I think you should read:

The Myth of Doing It All

When you ask a working mom about how she does it all, it either puts her in the position to say something disparaging about herself (check) or deliver an answer that makes the questioner feel somehow inadequate for doing less.

Unfinished. Here’s Why YOU Should Be!!

So here’s how this works, and you can probably relate… I get these brilliant ideas for a story, or a story idea — even a tidbit of juiciness–sparks of creativity—glimpses of genius—and I race to capture them.  Before they race away into the vast recesses of my grey matter.

So I have probably oh, I don’t know, 27 posts ‘pending’.  27 drafts. Works in ‘progress’.

This might bother a sane mind.

It would bother my insane mind if IDIDN’T have a bunch of inspiration to work with.  Cuz, Baby, you gotta strike while the iron is hot, the sparks are flying, guns are blazin’….  and ya gotta fit it in somewhere between the phone calls, the emails, the kids throwing toys across the room, and pouring yourself another glass a wine.

One of those juicy tidbits of mine was called, “Unfinished.”

Here’s all it said:

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Clothe Yourself Empowered. Here’s How.

I am SO EXCITED to share this with everyone!!  I am Crazy About It! So many cool, exciting and FABULOUS things have happened in such a short time at The Empowered Mom! One is the discovery of the fantastic company:  Empowered Clothing Company.  I want to introduce you to them. Here’s their thinking: We LIVE ON…