Should You Stay At Home When Your Kids Are Older?

Meredith Viera

Meredith Vieira recently announced she will be leaving the TODAY anchor chair to spend more time with her husband and college-aged children.

When a woman at the top of her profession with older children exits the office for a career slow-down or hiatus, some people scratch their heads – why now? Don’t kids need their moms less as they get older?

If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time, you know I am agnostic when it comes to what Moms should do.  It is UP TO YOU! A Stay-at-home Mom works just as much as a Working Mom (outside the home).  One of the reasons I started this blog was to get information like this out there.  In this piece, Alexa Aguilar makes some interesting points that I want to share.

This Kiss – This Kiss (with props to Faith Hill)

Royal newlyweds Prince William and Catherine Middleton kissed twice on the balcony of Buckingham Palace in front of family and ecstatic crowds.

The married couple, who officially became the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge Friday morning, smiled and waved before thousands of screaming spectators and a worldwide audience of more than 2 billion people as they made the customary post-wedding appearance on the palace balcony.

In the most carefully choreographed of weddings — with every moment planned to the second — the couple’s balcony kiss was the one wildcard, and it did not disappoint. The heir to the British throne first exchanged a short peck with his beloved bride and then leaned in to kiss her again about two minutes later. The Abbey bells rang, the overhead fighter planes hummed and heart-shaped balloons floated above. The crowd erupted in cheers and became a sea of waving flags.

Empowered Information: Why Marriages Take a Nose Dive After the First Child is Born

Along with shopping for sippy cups and strollers, expectant parents may want to consider another task for their to-do list: honing their marriage skills.

Numerous studies have shown that a couples’ satisfaction with their marriage takes a nose dive after the first child is born. Sleepless nights and fights over whose turn it is to change diapers can leach the fun out of a relationship.

Dominick Reuter for the Wall Street Journal

Now, a growing number of mental-health professionals are advising couples to undergo pre-baby counseling to hash out marital minefields such as divvying up baby-related responsibilities, money issues and expectations for sex and social lives. A growing number of hospitals, midwives and doulas (birth coaches who provide physical and emotional support) are teaching relationship skills alongside childbirth education classes.

About two-thirds of couples see the quality of their relationship drop within three years of the birth of a child, according to data from the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, a nonprofit organization focused on strengthening families. Conflict increases and, with little time for adult conversation and sex, emotional distance can develop.

The Empowered Mom says: What a buzz kill, isn’t it.  Seriously, if that’s not some of the best birth control, then I don’t know what is!  And, by the way — If you have kids, then you already know the information presented in this Wall Street Journal article is NO JOKE.  That’s what’s so frightening.  It’s kinda like we wait and wish and hope and pray for the marriage, family, kids, dog, house…. and then BAM! The reality sometimes, well, sucks. Or rather, its repercussions on some components of our lives flat-out – well…falls flat.

There’s more to come – keep reading.

“Good Enough” is the New Perfect for Empowered Moms

Today’s Empowered Moms are constantly re-evaluating what it means to “have it all” and creating new ways to balance family and work.

“The Mommy Wars” of the past decades, which pitted stay-at-home mothers against those in the workforce, have changed. There’s less camaraderie now between women in both camps and more isolation as mothers have such varied lives, both at work and at home.