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So You Want To Talk Empowered?

I packed the hubbs on a plane to Kansas City and off we went this past weekend to figure out this whole bloggy thing I have been doing for several weeks.  It’s about time, huh?

We went to something called WordCamp KC. WordCamps are community organized meetings for users of WordPress – the blogging platform that I use.  The Organizers, Jacob McDaniel, Josepha Haden and Val Bontrager compiled their thoughts, ideas, and flawlessly executed a WordCamp the first time they tried it.  All of these folks are pretty cool people I quickly found out.  One of the brightest people at the conference was Syed Balhis – a 20 something kid that appears to have forgotten  more about blogging than I have learned.  Very fun and entertaining presenter as well.

Wasn’t really sure what was going to happen at this so-called WordCamp.  Having never been to one – I thought here I go – just put myself out there and see what sticks.  I was really impressed.

Sure there were a bunch of tech geeks at the thing.  But Jacob and Josepha did a great job keeping the content people separated from the developers.  And that allowed the novices like me to learn a bunch of new stuff.

So here it is – what I learned at (Word) Camp this week:

 

 

Would You (of Do You) Read This Blog If You Did Not Have Kids?

Good Read from Mom-101

This week, I was minding my own business on the commute to work, picking my nose, reading about the Beastie Boys, daydreaming about cheese, adjusting a wedgie–whatever things you do in the privacy of a packed A-train car filled with anonymous commuters.

As the train pulled up to the West 4th Street station, I felt a hand on my shoulder. I turned to face this young woman with the sweetest smile and a fedora, who I expected to be giving directions to, or thanking her for pointing out that I had dropped my MetroCard. Instead, she blurted out in the brief second before the doors closed, that while she has no kids, she reads my blog.

It kind of made my day.

At least after I nervously replayed my train ride, hoping that she didn’t see me doing something totally embarrassing like knocking over an old lady to grab the last seat.

(But I didn’t. I only do that on the commute home when my feet really hurt.)

What stayed with me all week, though, was the email Kelly sent me later that morning. As I told her, I  think it’s too good not to share it.

Of Things Related to The Royal Wedding and Things Up Your Nose

I love reading other mom blogs in a seemingly never ending pursuit to find inspiration amongst some of the great writers out there.  So, here is what I am wondering?  As I’m combing through all these posts, why not share some of the really good ones with you?  Yeah, I know – why didn’t I think of that.

So here are some from today:

I don’t care who designed Kate’s dress.

Harper will be six tomorrow, and I have a field trip with Meredith’s class (Chinese Buffet!). Meredith will be eight on Friday, and I have a field trip with Harper’s class (Zoo!). We have two birthday parties scheduled for Saturday and one for Sunday. Things are hectic, but it’s a Happy Hectic.

“Oh! Wait a second,” you may say, “I have noticed a glaring omission in your List o’ Hectic! Prince William! Kate Middleton! Have you no desire to put on a hat and participate in the jollification? EVEN ANDERSON COOPER WILL BE THERE!”

Empowered Information: Why Marriages Take a Nose Dive After the First Child is Born

Along with shopping for sippy cups and strollers, expectant parents may want to consider another task for their to-do list: honing their marriage skills.

Numerous studies have shown that a couples’ satisfaction with their marriage takes a nose dive after the first child is born. Sleepless nights and fights over whose turn it is to change diapers can leach the fun out of a relationship.

Dominick Reuter for the Wall Street Journal

Now, a growing number of mental-health professionals are advising couples to undergo pre-baby counseling to hash out marital minefields such as divvying up baby-related responsibilities, money issues and expectations for sex and social lives. A growing number of hospitals, midwives and doulas (birth coaches who provide physical and emotional support) are teaching relationship skills alongside childbirth education classes.

About two-thirds of couples see the quality of their relationship drop within three years of the birth of a child, according to data from the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, a nonprofit organization focused on strengthening families. Conflict increases and, with little time for adult conversation and sex, emotional distance can develop.

The Empowered Mom says: What a buzz kill, isn’t it.  Seriously, if that’s not some of the best birth control, then I don’t know what is!  And, by the way — If you have kids, then you already know the information presented in this Wall Street Journal article is NO JOKE.  That’s what’s so frightening.  It’s kinda like we wait and wish and hope and pray for the marriage, family, kids, dog, house…. and then BAM! The reality sometimes, well, sucks. Or rather, its repercussions on some components of our lives flat-out – well…falls flat.

There’s more to come – keep reading.

A Guide to Other Mothers. 11 Stereotypes From Tiger to Too Cool

Thank you Babble, for sharing this. I simply had to do the same and pass along to all you out there. Especially Newbie Moms. And that means all you Empowered Moms out there (Newbie or not)!

To all you Newbie-Moms.  Be afraid. Of all the Moms out there who have it ‘all figured out’.  Because, guess what?  They don’t.  And if they say they do, they’re lying.

Here’s some of the Moms you, no doubt, will come in contact with.  A a few tips to identify the species…. good luck on your wild-life hunting.

1. SANCTIMOMMY

Spawned on anonymous internet message boards, the Sanctimommy thinks she’s got it all figured out — and she’s pretty sure you don’t. Whatever her parenting beliefs and behaviors may be, they’re better than yours, and she’s sure to let you know it. Steer clear if you’re feeling thin-skinned.

5 ways to tell if you’re a sanctimommy»

 

 

2. TIGER MOM

11 Mom Stereotypes - Tiger MomTo the Tiger Mom, childhood is about work now, play later. She takes her kids’ futures seriously and won’t let anything get in the way. Her kids are definitely going to be more successful than yours. If the Tiger Mom’s kids are busy working, she could be a good option for socializing … as long as you don’t mind the sound of the whip cracking in the background.

Battle hymn of the tiger mother: Is it a battle you need to fight? »

3: POWER MOM

11 Mom Stereotypes - Power MomPower Mom’s into success, too — her own. If you see her around, she’s likely to be dashing in and out on her way to something much more important than the likes of you. Is she proud about her Very Important Position or does she wish she could just chill out with the coffee moms after drop off? Probably both. Don’t be offended if she breaks plans; it’s not personal.

The billionaire mom’s club »

 

10 Ways To Achieve an Empowered Work-Life Balance

My friend, Rene Syler at Good Enough Mother has a terrific posting this morning on achieving a Work-Life Balance.

Most of us working moms know that managing a full-time job outside the home as well as a family is a challenging task if ever there was one. This is especially the case in this day and age where the workday continues long past 5pm.

Yes, as many of us have realized, we’re “on-call” more than we planned to be these days. With technology allowing employers access to employees 24/7, it’s harder than ever to achieve the proverbial “work-life balance.”

That said, there are some tips and tricks that we can use to ease the burden somewhat and allow us to have that much-needed balance and maybe, just maybe, a little bit of “me time.”

Following are 10 things you can do to make your life easier, Good Enough Mother style!

Here’s An Empowered Thought: Everything I needed to know about life, I learned from 8 years of blogging.

There is a great new post over at Mommy Needs Coffee.  This is one of my favorite blogs to read each day. Jennifer’s writing is always edgy, sometimes saucy – and frequently a guilty pleasure for me.

She has a fun post entitled,Everything I needed to know about life, I learned from 8 years of blogging. (No, not really but kind of a catchy title, no?)

I like almost all of the reasons.  Some are better than others.

Take for example Reason # 6 – I couldn’t agree more.

“Good Enough” is the New Perfect for Empowered Moms

Today’s Empowered Moms are constantly re-evaluating what it means to “have it all” and creating new ways to balance family and work.

“The Mommy Wars” of the past decades, which pitted stay-at-home mothers against those in the workforce, have changed. There’s less camaraderie now between women in both camps and more isolation as mothers have such varied lives, both at work and at home.

A Mother’s Prayer by a Famous Empowered Mom

I love writing. And writing well. It’s sort of like crafting a good recipe and meal.

I love to read good writing almost as crating it myself.

So when I came across Melody Godfred’s blog, Write in Color, it was like finding an old friend.  If you love good writing – go here – often.

When I checked in with Melody this morning, I was happy to find a brilliantly written Mom’s poem by none other than Tina Fey. Talk about an Empowered Mom!

So with props to both Tina (for the writing) and Melody (for the sharing), I want to make sure my peeps get a chance to enjoy this little treasure.

A Mother’s Prayer for Its Child By Tina Fey

First, Lord: No tattoos. May neither Chinese symbol for truth nor Winnie-the-Pooh holding the FSU logo stain her tender haunches.