Empowered Information: Why Marriages Take a Nose Dive After the First Child is Born

Along with shopping for sippy cups and strollers, expectant parents may want to consider another task for their to-do list: honing their marriage skills.

Numerous studies have shown that a couples’ satisfaction with their marriage takes a nose dive after the first child is born. Sleepless nights and fights over whose turn it is to change diapers can leach the fun out of a relationship.

Dominick Reuter for the Wall Street Journal

Now, a growing number of mental-health professionals are advising couples to undergo pre-baby counseling to hash out marital minefields such as divvying up baby-related responsibilities, money issues and expectations for sex and social lives. A growing number of hospitals, midwives and doulas (birth coaches who provide physical and emotional support) are teaching relationship skills alongside childbirth education classes.

About two-thirds of couples see the quality of their relationship drop within three years of the birth of a child, according to data from the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle, a nonprofit organization focused on strengthening families. Conflict increases and, with little time for adult conversation and sex, emotional distance can develop.

The Empowered Mom says: What a buzz kill, isn’t it.  Seriously, if that’s not some of the best birth control, then I don’t know what is!  And, by the way — If you have kids, then you already know the information presented in this Wall Street Journal article is NO JOKE.  That’s what’s so frightening.  It’s kinda like we wait and wish and hope and pray for the marriage, family, kids, dog, house…. and then BAM! The reality sometimes, well, sucks. Or rather, its repercussions on some components of our lives flat-out – well…falls flat.

There’s more to come – keep reading.

A Guide to Other Mothers. 11 Stereotypes From Tiger to Too Cool

Thank you Babble, for sharing this. I simply had to do the same and pass along to all you out there. Especially Newbie Moms. And that means all you Empowered Moms out there (Newbie or not)!

To all you Newbie-Moms.  Be afraid. Of all the Moms out there who have it ‘all figured out’.  Because, guess what?  They don’t.  And if they say they do, they’re lying.

Here’s some of the Moms you, no doubt, will come in contact with.  A a few tips to identify the species…. good luck on your wild-life hunting.

1. SANCTIMOMMY

Spawned on anonymous internet message boards, the Sanctimommy thinks she’s got it all figured out — and she’s pretty sure you don’t. Whatever her parenting beliefs and behaviors may be, they’re better than yours, and she’s sure to let you know it. Steer clear if you’re feeling thin-skinned.

5 ways to tell if you’re a sanctimommy»

 

 

2. TIGER MOM

11 Mom Stereotypes - Tiger MomTo the Tiger Mom, childhood is about work now, play later. She takes her kids’ futures seriously and won’t let anything get in the way. Her kids are definitely going to be more successful than yours. If the Tiger Mom’s kids are busy working, she could be a good option for socializing … as long as you don’t mind the sound of the whip cracking in the background.

Battle hymn of the tiger mother: Is it a battle you need to fight? »

3: POWER MOM

11 Mom Stereotypes - Power MomPower Mom’s into success, too — her own. If you see her around, she’s likely to be dashing in and out on her way to something much more important than the likes of you. Is she proud about her Very Important Position or does she wish she could just chill out with the coffee moms after drop off? Probably both. Don’t be offended if she breaks plans; it’s not personal.

The billionaire mom’s club »